Wednesday, July 8, 2015

Friends, how many of us have them?

The older you get in life, the more you recognize that your friendships become more meaningful and you tend to weed out those people who aren't sincere about mutual growth. Friendships, very similar to relationships have ups and downs. I've had the great fortune the last few months to evaluate myself and the roles people play in my life. 

A hard truth that I've recently accepted is that I keep a great deal to myself and it can be difficult to be my friend when I shut down. My mother, my most recent ex, and my childhood best friend have known that about me for years. God has placed some amazing people in my life that truly care about me and are patient. I also recognize that people are human and they won't always be there if you're not willing to give a little. 

I was talking to two close friends last week over drinks and dinner. I mentioned that I hadn't really been talking to two of my closest female friends because I couldn't "hide" from them and didn't want them to watch me self detonate in a few areas of life. They both made a comment that I needed to get over it and reach out. One of them sent me a text that night saying he prayed for my strength to simply trust in God that those two friends would be there. It was tough love from him, but necessary. 

The scariest thing this week was sending a group text to test the waters. They both responded...and just like that I was reminded that true friendships and relationships know the good and bad about you before you're sometimes willing to admit it yourself.

dyism:

Trust that the people who stick around when you're smiling and/or crying are there for a reason.